Just as much as you want your children to be happy, your children also want you to be happy.

Do you as a woman and a mother have a tendency to put everyone’s needs above your own? Have you convinced yourself that your needs don’t matter or that putting yourself last is the only why to put your children first?

If this is you, you are not alone.

As a society we have internalized the belief that mothers should put themselves last and that anything less than that is selfish.  We have come to believe that in order to love our children completely  means we have to be self-denying and self-sacrificing. It’s as though there is some quota on love that we cannot exceed. We cannot risk loving ourselves because their might not be enough love for our children.

But I’m hear to say that the complete opposite is true. You are a mother and you do matter. You have your own wants, needs, and desires aside from being a mother. And your wants, needs and desires do matter. You matter and you its not selfish to say that. You matter and your happiness is a priority. If you place a high value on your happiness that is not selfish.

Putting your happiness first is the best thing that you can do for your children. It is the best thing that you can do for them because you are showing them how to love themselves. When you love yourself and are happy and content with yourself you are an example for your children to do the same.

Kids are smart, they know if we are not happy and satisfied in ourselves. There is no fooling them. If our words are empty, our children see right through them. Children do what we do, not what we say. If you want your child to have high self-esteem, you must show them through your own example.

How do demonstrate that you are happy to your child(ren). Write your response in the comments section below.